Date: 2014-05-28 04:04 am (UTC)

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From: [personal profile] synecdochic
That is a really good article. Thanks for the link!

(And, yes, you talking about it with your male friends is a big help. It's pretty much been proven that men will listen to other men on matters of sexism more than they'll listen to women, just like white people will listen to other white people more about racism, etc. It helps a lot to have guys talking about stuff like this on so many levels.)
Date: 2014-05-29 08:03 pm (UTC)

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From: [personal profile] aposiopetic
On the talking to other men front, there are two things I want to add:

The first is that misogynists (and racists, and homophobes, and so on) interpret silence as endorsement. Extremist thinkers tend to believe that other people within their peer group hold similar views unless they are directly challenged. On of the most powerful things men can do as allies to women is to respond to misogyny where it arises. It doesn't have to be anything really bombastic, just a simple "No, that kind of humor isn't acceptable" or "No, that's not ok".

The second is that responding negatively to misogyny in conversation with other men does more than remove support from misogynists; it also has a direct impact on the other men listening. When groups of men are "primed" with sexist jokes, they are more likely to immediately make decisions that preference men or actively harm the interests of women (cutting funding from women's programs, for example). It's not conscious, we're just social creatures and very responsive to social cues. There's some evidence that having a member of the group challenge or shut down the misogyny *resets that social cue* and diminishes the negative impact of decision-making.

So please, yes, yes, yes, talk to your male friends about this stuff in general, and especially if casual sexism, rape jokes, and other misogynistic commentary arises.


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